Frustrations

I told my anna few days ago that I need to talk to him, but I only can make decision after I get my vtac offer, He called me Sunday midnight, I told him that I didn't get into nursing and I want to come down there and work for atleast one year and save some money, because if I stay here I won't be able to save anything and also its a chance for me to spend some time with my family.

My anna was discussing what I can do ect and then I told my amma, she wasn't happy and she was telling me are you going to study for the rest of your life? Get a permanent job and stay with it. I felt like they don't understand what I'm talking about, for them (most of the curry people anyway) you study hard and then you get a decent job and then you buy property and then get married and have kids and then you save for your kids and then you die without you get to enjoy the money that you earnt. They won't understand when I tell them I have a goal in my life and I wanna do certain things, it frustrates me but what can I do... my family is my family.

Then I talked to my dad, since he heard that I didn't get into nursing he started screaming, he doesn't wanna listen to me, and he was just kept on telling me just get a permanent job and get married, I was like Aiyoo Appa... nah I want to achieve certain things and I can't just find a permanent job and stay with it (I've been telling them this for ages)

What I can't understand is that what ever I say, they don't understand what I'm talking about, but I don't really blame them, its the way they grown up and they think life will be a paradise if you get married and find a permanent job. And nothing else matter unless you get married and have property and talk to or visit your relatives often... I just hate this idea but thats the way they grown up. I think instead of arguing and trying to make my point clear to them, I should just be calm and concentrate on what I wanted to do. Because I've already told them what I want to do with my life. What ever happens and what ever my parents say I know they love me and they only want the best for me, but I'm the one got to live my life and they don't know what I've gone through and experienced.